Friday, September 26, 2008

Throwback Fridays: Stacy Lattisaw - Love On A Two Way Street

A Sex Life Interrupted

Living at home will kill your sex life.

Kill it.

My mother kept talking about how this was "our" house.

I said, "No. No house I can't get laid in is my house."

She thought that was funny.

I'm glad she did.

I had a sex life when I was living on my own. A good one too. I had inadvertently become a one man woman, but I liked him and the sex was good so I wasn't complaining. We were sexing it up only about once or twice a week, but that was mainly because of our schedules. I could only really see him on the weekends because of all the work I had to do during the week.

But now I'm home and haven't seen a penis in a about a month. And I'm not happy about it. I'm an everyday sex kind of girl (when I can get it like that), so a month might as well be a year.

Talk about stressful.

I'm just not as nice, productive, nice, happy, nice, when I'm not getting laid. I just feel stressed. Working out helps...but I'd rather sweat on my back (knees, standing, on my side) and in the gym...not either or. But getting laid at home was never something I did much of...just too many variables and a lousy choice of men.

Sigh.

I'd like to think I could break this logjam soon, but alas, unless I go on vacay, there will be no action for JJ.

I'm a sad, sad girl.

Quote of the Day

The difference between intelligence and stupidity is that intelligence has its limits.
- Albert Einstein

Monday, September 22, 2008

Atlanta: Dry Gas Stations and (Almost) $5 Gas


So I hopped on over to CNN for my daily Corporate Controlled Mainstream News fix and I found this tidbit as the lead story:

Mohammed Hussain got 3,000 gallons of gas delivered to his Chevron station in suburban Atlanta on Saturday. By Sunday morning, all of the gas, priced at $4.39 per gallon for regular unleaded, was gone.

"We're dry. We've got no gas here," Hussain, the station's manager, said Monday morning.

He said he has "no idea" when the next shipment will come, even though he's been in constant contact with the local terminal.

"It could be days," he said. "Obviously, we're disappointed. We're being patient. That's all we can do."

Across metro Atlanta, drivers in one of the nation's largest commuter cities are running into the same thing: a lack of gas and no clear idea when the situation will get better. State and industry officials say they're working as fast as they can and are urging people not to panic.

Not to Panic?

No gas in metro Atlanta? There's nothing else to do BUT to panic. Geez.

The news (overall) has been downplaying the extent of Ike's damage as well as it's reach into areas outside of the Texas/Louisiana area because of the damage done to Houston's refineries.

Apparently it's bad. Really bad.

Hell, I've been applying for jobs up that way and now I'm rethinking that decision. I mean..unless I can live and work i Atlanta proper then I will not be moving that way.

Crazy.

Saturday, September 20, 2008

Quote of the Day

I really thought after over 10 years of dealing with that crap, that I could make myself sexually unattractive to men and then they would listen to me rather than look at me. It was maddddd stupid, I ruined a pretty damn good figure, but sometimes when you’re desperate you make dumb decisions. Now I attract men who like big girls, and jerks in the business are still jerks. Hey, you live and you learn.
- Propah (I want to work for Diddy) on gaining weight

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Getting Fat is Relationship Suicide


Men don’t like to fuck fat chicks.

Sorry to be so blunt about it, but it’s true.

And let’s be clear, I’m not talking about guys who date big women and later marry the women already big. A friend of mine has a wife who was 250lbs if she was pound when they got married. She’s bigger now but hey, he doesn’t mind, he married her big.

My cousin was also a big girl when she got hitched. Her man (who is handsome and fine) had no problems with that and they are still happily married to this day.

In general, however, what I said at the beginning ot this post still stands: Men don’t like to fuck fat chicks.

A fact many women seem to overlook when they get married or get in relationships and proceed to pack on the pounds.

“My man loves me,” you say.

Sure but loving you and wanting to fuck you are two different things

“My man would never leave me,” you say.

Perhaps. But people stay in marriages for any number of reasons.

“My man would never cheat on me,” you say.

Well…that’s where you are might be wrong. See I’m a firm believer in, “if he ain’t sleeping with me then he’s sleeping with someone,” and packing on the pounds is surefire way to ensure that the marital bed isn’t being set on fire.

Let’s be real here: if you were married at 135 pounds and are now 185 pounds you are not the same women he married. You just aren’t. You don’t have as much energy. Probably can’t participate in the same activities and the sex surely ain’t what it used to be.

Can you blame him for not being happy (or faithful)?

Love may be unconditional but sexual attraction is not. And before anyone tries to sell me on the bogus idea that, attraction starts in the mind and if you love someone that automatically means you want to screw them, I will automatically call bullshit on the bullshit you’re selling.

Love and sex are not synonymous – a fact we seem to be aware of before we get starry eyed and fall in love and/or in matrimony.

So my advice to any woman who is married or in a long-term relationship is to keep it right and keep it tight. A ten-pound gain is one thing. A fifty-pound gain is another.

And before anybody comments otherwise: this applies to the fellas as well. There’s no way I’d keep sexing a man who went from fit and fabulous to fat and flabby. If I gotta raise your belly to find your penis...it ain’t happening.

Saturday, September 13, 2008

Quote of the Day

Getting the pu$$y is like having dinner with Jesus; you gotta break bread!
- HunE916

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Quote of the Day

Friendship often ends in love; but love in friendship - never.
- Charles Caleb Colton

Note to Men: Stop Chasing Women You Can't Afford

I have a pet peeve.

Men who believe that they should have a "dime" yet only amount to a nickel themselves and then these same men sit around and call all women gold diggers and complain how women won't "give a good brother a try."

See, the problem with this scenario is this: too many men believe a woman should lower her standards (whatever they may be) to be with them. This is especially true if the man doing the complaining is gainfully employed, college educated, has no kids and Black, but may not be bringing in doctor, lawyer, athlete, mogul money.

Now in fairness, all these men aren't "nickels," some are actually very good catches, but because they want the tens and twelves they aren't paying attention to the sevens and eights.

Case in point:

I have a friend who I love dearly but he's stuck in this land where he believes he should have a Beyonce or Halle Berry even though he isn't Jay-Z or Gabriel Aubrey. Now mind you he is attractive, funny and talented and even though he was recently laid off (company relocated to Canada) he still has women, plenty of attractive, successful women who are looking to spend time with him, understand his situation and would have zero issues being his lady.

However, he always declines.

He says they aren't his "physical ideal."

He wants drop dead gorgeous.

Finally one day I said, "Stop going after women you can't afford."

He didn't like that too much.

Then he proceeded to rant and rave about how women in New York won't give a brother a shot and they only care about how much he makes, yadda, yadda, yadda.

So, me being the loving friend that I am, pointed out some very basic truths on how the world works,

"Beauty is a commodity. Women trade on it to marry the biggest fish they can catch. Women who spend their time and energy maintaining their looks are looking for someone who can afford to keep up their very expensive beauty regime. That shit ain't cheap. No matter how great a guy you are, you can't do that. SO why don't you stop beating your head up against a brick wall and go after the woman you can afford and the ones who like you for who you are right now?"

He didn't hear any of that.

Well he did, but he didn't want to hear it.

Instead he talked about how he was going to hold out for his "ideal."

You can guess how well that's working for him.

And this is my problem with so many men I know: these men believe they are entitled to extraordinary women while being rather ordinary themselves and then want to complain about it, saying it's the woman's fault for not being able to see their value.

Right.

Newsflash:
instead of calling the women you can't afford golddiggers...how about you do what it takes to get the woman of your dreams...or date the women you can afford. This is not rocket science.

While there are plenty of men out there who don't get it, there are others who do. Another homeboy of mine had a completely different take on the situation.

"I'm going to be rich and famous so I can date groupies," he said.

"Why would you want to date groupies?"

"Because they are the best looking women out there. They keep themselves up because they are looking for ballers. You don't have to worry about them getting fat 'cause they know they can be replaced and they will cater to all your needs 'cause they know if they don't you will find someone who will."

"Okay," I said, "Makes sense."

And it did.

Now you may think my homeboy is shallow, and that's fine, I do too, but at least he's not sitting around complaining that the hot girls he wants don't want him and won't give a broke college student a chance though he is a "good brotha."

He understands something very basic: If you want the hot girl, you need to have hot girl money.

Simple.

So note to the fellas: Stop chasing women you can't afford. You want the dimes you need to have dime money. If you don't, there are plenty of attractive women who will want you for where you are right now. You don't do yourself any favors by chasing some unattainable ideal. And in the end, you keep passing up perfectly good women for some chick who isn't gonna pay you any attention...you will end up alone.

Take a cue from the ladies: women know where they fall on the attractiveness scale and they act acordingly.

Just a thought.

Tuesday, September 09, 2008

Quote of the Day

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.
- Charles M. Schulz

Monday, September 08, 2008

Ooops MTV Did It Again: Britney Wins 3 at the VMA's

Okay now I'm really confused.

3 VMA's?

Really?

For what?

That mediocre album she put out that everyone raved about because she managed to record and shoot videos while she was hopped up on every drug imaginable, flashing her coochie to the world and managing to lose custody of her kids at the same time?

Really?

- Best Pop Video
- Best Female Video
- Video of the Year

For this:



If I was an artist in any of the categories she won for I'd be pissed. Does Britney have an agent in the MTV offices that I don't know about? Does someone at Viacom want a piece of her so they engineered it for her to win in three of the top categories of the VMA's? What?

Once agin I'm asking...can someone explain this to me?

Sunday, September 07, 2008

What's MTV's Obsession With Britney Sprears?

This was Britney's VMA performance last year:



Yeah.

So why did she get such a prominent spot on this year's VMA's? No. She didn't perform but she did get to open the show. And my question is why? What's so special about this chick?

Outside of the fact in the past year she's managed to clean up her train wreck of a life..I don't get what the big deal is. Why is MTV so pro-Britney? What the obsession?

Anybody got an answer?

Tuesday, September 02, 2008

Quote of the Day

When the subject is a pregnancy to an unwed, minority teenage mother growing up in some (presumably Democratic) urban area, that pregnancy becomes fodder for lectures from conservatives about bad parenting, the perils of welfare spending and so on. But when the subject is a pregnancy to an unwed, white teenager from some small town in a Republican state, that pregnancy is...a celebration of the wonders of God's magnificence--and choosing life!
― Thomas Schaller

Monday, September 01, 2008

Why is it Difficult for Women to Reach an Orgasm?


 


 


Why Is It Difficult for Women to Reach an Orgasm?


 


According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)!


 


A lot of flack fall on men on why women don’t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.


 


6 Reasons Why Women DON’T Climax


 


There are many reasons why women don’t reach sexual climax. Some of them maybe men’s faults but a lot can be because of her too…


 


Foreplay? What foreplay?


Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don’t ‘condition’ her mind for sex, then chances are she won’t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina.


 


She’s thinking too much!


Women are natural multi-taskers. Unfortunately, they’re so used to thinking and doing several things at the same time that they find it hard to simply be ‘in the moment’ during sex. If most men can be very ‘in the zone’ during sex, women seem to have various thoughts running through their heads all the time (e.g., home chores that need to be done, kids’ homework, dirty laundry, etc.).


 


She’s full of… insecurities.


Women have many body image issues. While you may adore her, her mind is probably worried about at least three different things as you undress her: Is the light revealing any cellulite? Are my ‘love handles’ protruding? Does he think my breasts are too small/big?


 


If body image anxiety is not in her head, then she may be thinking about things such as “I didn’t shower yet, I hope I smell good… especially down there.”, or “I didn’t pee. I hope I don’t embarrass myself.”


 


ALL these thoughts are making her focus on the wrong things! It’s taking attention away from sexual pleasure and into sexual insecurities. And when a woman is in this mode, it’s almost impossible to her focus on reaching her own climax!


 


 


She really doesn’t know her own body.


There is a certain art form to making love to a woman’s body. It really does have a lot of mysterious curves, spots and turns. Sadly, many women don’t indulge in a lot of ‘self exploration’ when it comes to sex. As such, it’s hard to guide you on what makes her feel good or which techniques really turn her on. And really, if she doesn’t know her own body, how can you be expected to instinctively know what brings her pleasure, right?


 


The best thing is… it’s never too late to learn! Why don’t you BOTH explore her body? Don’t rush anything and try everything. See what turns her on best and use that knowledge to make her reach her orgasm. Make it your sexual quest! However, here are some clues to save you a few steps…


YOU’re not paying attention!


True, men are not mind-readers. Unfortunately, many women are not great communicators in bed as well so we have a little problem here. Compounding this problem is of course that favorite female bedroom habit of ‘faking orgasms’. As a result, YOU think that what you’re doing is great when in reality you may not even be close!


 


To solve this particular problem, try to develop a certain ‘sexual code’ between you two. For instance, a slight squeeze on your arm means “You’re doing great! Pls. keep doing it!”; while nails on your skin or arm mean “enough of that!”. You will receive more squeezes, however, if you know some important facts. Click here to learn more...


YOU’re changing ‘techniques’ too fast.


Men like to try different sexual positions and that’s great but sometimes you may be changing just a bit too fast. Women need to get accustomed to a certain ‘rhythm’ before sexual pleasure begins to climb. If you keep shifting positions, she will either (a) never find the position that brings her an orgasm, (b) lose the sexual pleasure she was experiencing in the previous position or (c) be so frustrated that even if you go back to the same position, she may not be that sexually aroused again.


 


So keep this in mind: when it comes to female orgasm it’s not just location, location, location… it’s also about repetition, repetition, repetition.


 


 


Hopefully this list of potential reasons why your partner is not reaching an orgasm paves the way for discussion between the two of you. Don’t focus on why she’s not reaching an orgasm. Instead, focus on what you guys are going to do, so that she does reach her climax. That’s a more positive approach and lot more fun too! Learn creative and easy ways to do it here…