Rule #1: Don't put Your Pussy on a Platter
Yeah you read that right. Don't put your pussy on a platter. What do I mean by that?
Exhibit A: Nicole's date with Kalik on Essence's 30 Dates in 30 Days
Could she seem anymore desperate? Could she have made it any clearer that she wanted to sex him then if she'd jumped on him right there in the restaurant?
Look, I'm all for a good time. And if a good time is what you're looking for then by all means, have a good time. But if you say you want a relationship, then saying to a man in words or actions "I want to fuck you," (on a first date no less) is NOT the way to go about getting one. You may get a mighty nice bedroom workout but that's about it.
Don't put your girl parts on a platter. Don't give a man the impression that he doesn't have to do any work to get you because you're already offering yourself up to be had, used and discarded. All good things are worth working for and you're a good thing. A GREAT thing.
You don't have to ask a man if he's going to clean out his closet for you. He needs to be asking YOU that question. He needs to show you that's he's willing to put in the work. Please don't think I'm knocking recreational sex or casual relationships--cause I'm not. Anybody who's read this blog long enough knows that. But I'm a firm believer in modeling the behavior of whatevr it is you're trying to achieve. And if you want a relationship THEN ACT LIKE IT. Don't get caught up in the fact that some man gets your girl parts all hot. Stay focused on what type of man he is, what you're looking for and whether he fulfills those needs or not. Believe me, if he does that, then you're girl parts will like him just fine.
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