Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Can I have a Glass of Wine and a Side of Girl Parts, Please

Rule #1: Don't put Your Pussy on a Platter

Yeah you read that right. Don't put your pussy on a platter. What do I mean by that?

Exhibit A: Nicole's date with Kalik on Essence's 30 Dates in 30 Days

Could she seem anymore desperate? Could she have made it any clearer that she wanted to sex him then if she'd jumped on him right there in the restaurant?

Look, I'm all for a good time. And if a good time is what you're looking for then by all means, have a good time. But if you say you want a relationship, then saying to a man in words or actions "I want to fuck you," (on a first date no less) is NOT the way to go about getting one. You may get a mighty nice bedroom workout but that's about it.

Don't put your girl parts on a platter. Don't give a man the impression that he doesn't have to do any work to get you because you're already offering yourself up to be had, used and discarded. All good things are worth working for and you're a good thing. A GREAT thing.

You don't have to ask a man if he's going to clean out his closet for you. He needs to be asking YOU that question. He needs to show you that's he's willing to put in the work. Please don't think I'm knocking recreational sex or casual relationships--cause I'm not. Anybody who's read this blog long enough knows that. But I'm a firm believer in modeling the behavior of whatevr it is you're trying to achieve. And if you want a relationship THEN ACT LIKE IT. Don't get caught up in the fact that some man gets your girl parts all hot. Stay focused on what type of man he is, what you're looking for and whether he fulfills those needs or not. Believe me, if he does that, then you're girl parts will like him just fine.

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K. said...

"Stay focused on what type of man he is"

That is the most important part. Pay attention to what he's saying and how he's saying it. What he's doing and how he's doing it. These things give you insight into his character.

I didn't really see anything special in that video about dude other than his looks. Their conversation didn't seem like it was all that.

And what's up w/ her asking him about who he's seeing on date 1 (assuming that he's already made it clear that he's single)? That just screams insecure, especially when her azz is going on 30 dates in 30 days.

trench said...

"Dont put your pussy on a platter." Man, thats a classic line right there! LOL.