tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38270111.post5412711889463927201..comments2023-11-02T09:16:41.723-04:00Comments on Brown Sugar: How Date Rape HappensBrown Sugarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16376827318735981302noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38270111.post-15888930822867069492008-07-21T16:23:00.000-04:002008-07-21T16:23:00.000-04:00Hello there!I am starting an online support group ...Hello there!<BR/><BR/>I am starting an online support group for "Sistas Who Are Survivors" of rape and incest.<BR/><BR/>There are many sides of this issue.<BR/><BR/>There are women who say "no, no, I am not interested" but their body language around men gives mixed signals because many black women are taught to allow themselves to be portrayed in a way that fetishizes their sexual identity.<BR/><BR/>There are, of course, disrespectful men who do not want to accept boundaries...and there is a place for those men... jail...prison!! We need to report those men and not just cop an attitude and then let them walk free to violate the next black women and the next and the next.<BR/><BR/>Black women may not WANT men who are strangers to define them sexually or to relate to them sexually and THAT will happen even if it is unwanted, but we can stil have a role in HOW we present ourselves to men. We can control how we present ourselves but we can not always control HOW men respond to our representation of our womanhood.<BR/><BR/>Therein lies many issues unresolved.<BR/><BR/>I don't care if a woman is walking down the street with a thong on and no bra, it does NOT give any man a right to touch her. Period. Still, one might want to ask if that woman is NOT giving an unspoken message that she is sexually available by the manner in which she choses to present herself.<BR/><BR/>I hear many black women say "there are so many sexual predators out here" and yes, THERE ARE...but we can get them into police custody if we will make the call. It doesn't matter if it is the most popular frat boy on campus or the star athlete... removing sexual predators from our midst means we MUST TAKE action.<BR/><BR/>I have talked to men who say 'sistas know they want to have sex but they play hard to get so that you don't think they are easy'. This is true - THERE ARE sistas who will 'play" hard to get they know darn well that they want to have sex. Yes, there are women who will play mind games. STILL...there is no excuse for rape! And these men need to understand that EVERY sista who says "no" is not "playing hard to get". Often, these men think that ALL woman are just playing a game and they are very wrong in assuming. And being wrong in their assumptions is what will put them in jail.<BR/><BR/>Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!<BR/>LisaLISA VAZQUEZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13583559303233985031noreply@blogger.com